Similarly, if you’re a bottom-only queen, ask yourself why. If you believe that topping is preferable because it doesn’t threaten your masculinity, then have a strong word with yourself. Basically, people start the sentence with ‘Drake the type of fella’ or. Not only are you saying that it's more masculine to be a top, but you're saying that you should be ashamed to be a bottom.”īasically, it could be time to seriously check yourself and ask exactly why you don’t like bottoming (or topping, TBH). Those of you have are fans of Drake might have come across the popular memes in past years as the trend is far from new. “You don't ever hear tops being called sluts, just bottoms. “If you're a bottom, you’re sometimes seen as a slut,” he says. Chris White, an expert in health promotion and the director and principal investigator of the Safe and Supportive Schools Project at the Gay-Straight Alliance Network in San Francisco, takes this one step further. “With bottoming there is the perception that you're giving up your masculinity because receiving a penis is something that women do,” Miller adds.ĭr. The ongoing fetishization of masculinity means that the traditionally submissive role of the bottom is associated with effeminacy. “What I mean by that,” he says, “is that cultural forces within the gay community prize topping over bottoming.” It could open up a world of possibilities.Īs Miller explains, there are outside forces that, dating back to the ancient Greeks, have prevented gay men from truly digging into what sexual behaviors we might actually enjoy. So, with the help of some experts, let’s take a moment to dismantle what you think you know about topping and bottoming. 1 A Reddit post to /r/funny by the user ChiTownSports22 was submitted on March 23rd, 2013 and has since gained over 900 upvotes. The image has since gained over 3,800 likes. National Rifle Association board member Ted Nugent posted a racially derogatory image on his Facebook page that he said was an advertisement for a moving company. Sure, people have a preference, but now could be the perfect time to escape the top or bottom prison you live in. MemeCenter user suwoo420 submitted an image to MemeCenter titled 'Nigga You Gay' 2 years ago. But it ought not to be impossible to sexually switch things up. These two subdivisions have their own rules, stereotypes, and in-jokes, and can sometimes seem as if they’re at war with each other, rather than both working together for mutual sexual pleasure.Īll of this can make trying different things daunting, especially if you’re a baby gay venturing into this world for the first time. But often, penetrative sex can feel divided into rigid binaries that make being a top or a bottom seem like a cult you’ve signed up to for life, and one that you have to declare as soon as two (or more) consenting men decide to take their clothes off and rub up against each other. This is clearly not the case, especially for those people who consider themselves versatile ( HIYA).
Legend would have you believe that once you’ve earned your gay card, a Harry Potter–like ceremony occurs where, instead of the Sorting Hat, a giant magical butt plug divides all gay men into two houses: tops or bottoms.